Musings of an Aging Lesbian

We went clothes shopping yesterday. Size 8s too big, 6 was just right. 8 and 6? I remember being a zoftig 160 and a size 16 in my early 20s then 150-155 and a size 12 to 14 throughout my adult life. I started losing weight when Kelly and I began dating 8 years ago and got down to an 8 to 10. I even hit a size 6 once or twice. But since I started Weight Watchers in September, I’m now 130 and a solid size 6. In those big-girl days, I remember being in a dressing room, looking in the mirrors, and hating my fat body. Today I look in the mirror in wonder. Thank you, God, for my body and my health…

Rudyard Kipling said: If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten. The snippets of LGBTQ history here are the stories of our lives, the stories of the giants on whose shoulders we all stand. Learn about them then tell the stories and remember…

Thanks for taking this journey with me. Now go write your story!


1704 – The Province of New Jersey adopts a statute issuing a general pardon for any pending prosecutions for same-sex intercourse; they were abandoned as of that date.

1714 – The Province of South Carolina adopts English common law and criminalizes buggery, punishing same-sex intercourse and zoophilia with the death penalty and forfeiture of property, for males only.

1969 – Police enter the Continental Baths and arrest three patrons and three employees, charging the patrons with lewd and lascivious acts and the employees with criminal mischief. The raid is the first of several on the Continental for the following weeks. The Continental Baths was a gay bathhouse in the basement of The Ansonia Hotel in New York City which was opened in 1968 by Steve Ostrow. It was advertised as reminiscent of “the glory of ancient Rome”. The documentary film Continental by Malcolm Ingram covers the height of the club’s popularity through the early 1970s.

1970 – A struggling young pianist and songwriter takes a day job performing at New York’s Continental Baths. His name is Barry Manilow (born June 17, 1943). He is an American singer-songwriter, arranger, musician and producer with a career that has spanned more than 50 years. His hit recordings include “Mandy“, “Can’t Smile Without You“, and “Copacabana (At the Copa)“.

1989 – Over 5,000 attend the “Stop the Church” protest at St. Patrick’s Cathedral in New York City. The 100 activists who laid down in the aisles were arrested. They were protesting Cardinal John O’Connor’s influence on government policies relating to HIV and sexuality.

1990 – The Indiana state civil rights commission rules that the civil rights of Kenneth Westhoven (1954-1990) had been violated when his employer, after discovering he was HIV positive, reduced his health benefits cap from $1 million/lifetime to $50,000/lifetime.

1993 – The brutal murder of trans man Brandon Teena (December 12, 1972 – December 31, 1993) becomes a cause celebre and the subject of an influential 1999 feature film, Boys Don’t Cry, where the role of Teena is played by Hilary Swank. Brandon was an American trans man who was raped and murdered in Humboldt, Nebraska.  Teena’s murder, along with that of Matthew Shepard (December 1, 1976 – October 12, 1998), led to increased lobbying for hate crime laws in the United States.

1995 – A “Roseanne” episode portrays a same-sex wedding when character Leon marries his boyfriend Scott. ABC moves the episode from its 8:00 time slot to 9:30 because of the adult humor.

1997 – The Kentucky state Court of Appeals rules that gay men and lesbians are entitled to protection under the state’s domestic violence laws. 

2002, Argentina – Buenos Aires approves civil unions.

Stand up, speak out, share your story!



(Historical information obtained from a variety of sources including QUIST at,, #LavenderEffect,, #ArronsGayInfo, #AllThingsQueer, #RSLevinson, #AmaraDasWilhelm,, #SafeSchoolsCoalition, and/or Wikipedia. If you wish to edit an item or add an item, please send an email to me at Thanks!)

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