Musings of an Aging Lesbian

Yesterday was a busy day. Pickleball in the morning, the Death Cafe in the afternoon and a party in the evening. Death Cafe??? What the heck is That?? We, too, were curious. It’s a conversation group of whomever wishes to attend to talk about aging and preparation issues for LGBTQ people. The Cafe is hosted by PALS which is an organization that assists aging LGBTQ people with whatever their aging issues might be, from paperwork to medical issues to hospice and more.

And then Kelly and I went to the 849 Restaurant for a holiday party supporting The Women’s Circle which is a group of lesbian business women in the Coachella Valley. It was so beautifully diverse with Black women outnumbering white women, a Latina, and a woman in a wheel chair. I was so happy to socialize with these wonderful woman and look forward to seeing them again soon. This gathering “look” is so rare and I feel so honored to be part of it. Shout out to Lucy and Gail who make sure our events are always about shared similarities.

Rudyard Kipling said: If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten. The snippets of LGBTQ history here are the stories of our lives, the stories of the giants on whose shoulders we all stand. Learn about them then tell the stories and remember…

Thanks for taking this journey with me. Now go write your story!


1993 – The Massachusetts State Senate approves a bill to protect lesbian and gay public school students from discrimination.

1994 – Delegates of the American Medical Association declare their opposition to medical treatments administered to “cure” lesbians or gay men, urging “nonjudgmental recognition of sexual orientation.”

1995 – President Bill Clinton hosts the first White House Conference on AIDS, 14 years after the epidemic began. President Bill Clinton convened the first White House Conference on HIV and AIDS on this day. President Clinton’s active support for HIV and AIDS programs reversed the neglect by Presidents Ronald Reagan and George H. W. Bush. By the end of 1995, more than 500,000 people in the U.S. had been diagnosed with AIDS. Partly as a result of a vigorous federal research effort that began after Reagan and Bush left office, the number of new AIDS/HIV infections and deaths every year declined dramatically.

1998 – The Sacramento Bee reports that for the past four years California Social Services director Eloise Anderson had refused an order from Gov. Pete Wilson to withdraw a directive she issued which allowed gay and lesbian couples to adopt children by saying that a stable home with good financial and emotional support is important for an adoptive child, regardless of the marital status of the parents. During her time in California, the Los Angeles Times referred to Anderson as “The Queen of Responsibility” and “an outspoken champion of welfare reform.”

1998 – The Los Angeles Times published an editorial by Robert Scheer on conservative Michael Huffington’s (born September 3, 1947) recent decision to come out of the closet, saying it should come as no surprise that Republicans, even conservative members of the party, are gay. He is an American politician, LGBT activist, and film producer. He was a member of the Republican Party, and a congressman for one term, 1993–1995, from California. Huffington was married to Arianna Huffington, the Greek-born co-founder of The Huffington Post, from 1986 to 1997.

2001, Israel – The film Trembing Before G-d, an American made documentary about lesbian and gay Orthodox Jews trying to reconcile their sexuality with their faith, is released in Israel. The film premiered at Sundance earlier in the year. It was directed by Sandi Simcha DuBowski (Sept. 16, 1970), an American who wanted to compare Orthodox Jewish attitudes to homosexuality with his own upbringing as a gay Conservative Jew. Dubowski is also the producer of Parvez Sharma‘s documentary A Jihad for Love (2007) which documents the lives of gay and lesbian Muslims. The US-based OUT Magazine named Sharma, one of the OUT 100 twice for 2008 and 2015- “one of the 100 gay men and women who have helped shape our culture during the year”. In 2016 a year after Larry Kramer, Sharma won the Monette Horowitzaward given to individuals and organizations for their significant contributions toward eradicating homophobia.

2011, Belgium – King Albert II names Elio Di Rupo (born 18 July 1951) Prime Minister of Belgium and, subsequently, the second openly gay male head of government. He served from December 6, 2011 to October 11, 2014. From France, he was Belgium’s first Prime Minister of non-Belgian descent.

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(Historical information obtained from a variety of sources including QUIST at,, #LavenderEffect,, #ArronsGayInfo, #AllThingsQueer, #RSLevinson, #AmaraDasWilhelm,, #SafeSchoolsCoalition, and/or Wikipedia. If you wish to edit an item or add an item, please send an email to me at Thanks!)

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