Musings of an Aging Lesbian

 I’m worried about the Pink Triangle as I am worried about the word Lesbian. The Pink Triangle was created by Nazis in concentration camps to identify homosexuals. (Jews had to wear a pink triangle over a yellow Star of David.) This symbol, used to label and shame, was embraced by the contemporary community in the 1980s as a symbol of pride. The Pink Triangle has since been replaced by the Rainbow as our symbol of pride. I had a great conversation with my pal Regina today. She pointed out something that was so obvious but yet I had missed: The word Lesbian is the only LGBTQIPA-Gender word that specifically means woman. It’s being replaced with queer and pan and gender fluid and others. Interesting, it’s the only word of these that is associated with a specific culture, with specific places and spaces and, well, with women. Sadly, the culture and places and spaces are disappearing, relegated to a herstory that the young users of the words queer and pan and others just don’t know. I’m feeling both sad and nostalgic these days. How about you?

Gratitude Day 12

Today I am grateful for the words of my friend Kent Bloom with whom I share a profound history of being both lesbian and gay and also Jewish. He said, “it is time to wear the Pink Triangle.” Let’s bring the Pink Triangle back as our powerful visual of resistance.

I invite you to add that for which you are grateful today.

Rudyard Kipling said: If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten. The snippets of LGBTQ history here are the stories of our lives, the stories of the giants on whose shoulders we all stand. Learn about them then tell the stories and remember…

Thanks for taking this journey with me. Now go write your story!


1679, Sweden – Lisabetha Olsdotter is convicted of abandoning her husband and children, becoming a soldier, and marrying a woman. She is accused of “mutilating” her gender and mocking God. She is executed by decapitation.

1958 – Eric Marcus (born November 12, 1958) is born. He is an American non-fiction writer. His works are primarily of LGBT interest, including Breaking the Surface, the autobiography of gay Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis, which became a #1 New York Times Bestseller and Making History: The Struggle for Gay and Lesbian Equal Rights, 1945–1990, which won the Stonewall Book Award. Other topics he’s addressed in his writing include suicide and pessimistic humor. Marcus received his B.A. from Vassar College in 1980 where he majored in Urban Studies. He earned his master’s degree from Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism in 1984 and a master’s degree in real estate development in 2003, also from Columbia University. He was an associate producer for Good Morning America and CBS Morning News. Marcus served on the Board and staff of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (ASFP), as National Board Member (2010 – 2014), Chair of the Loss & Bereavement Council (2011 – 2014) and Senior Director for Loss and Bereavement Programs from 2014 to 2015.

1964 – The first depiction of a same-sex relationship is found in an Egyptian tomb. Nyankh-khnum and Khnum-hotep are discovered buried together side by side. The wall art shows the two men kissing. They were ancient Egyptian royal servants. They shared the title of Overseer of the Manicurists in the Palace of King Nyuserre Ini, sixth pharaoh of the Fifth Dynasty, reigning during the second half of the 25th century BC. They were buried together at Saqqara and are listed as “royal confidants” in their joint tomb.

1969 – Fallout from Time Magazine’s October 31st cover story, “The Homosexual: Newly Visible, Newly Understood” results in a protest at New York’s Time-Life Building;

1978, France – Céline Sciamma (born 12 November 1978) is a French screenwriter and film director. Sciamma’s work is strikingly minimalist, partly the legacy of her mentor, Xavier Beauvois, who advised her while she was a student at the major French film school, La Fémis. While highly formalist and idiosyncratic (notably in her lack of dialogue and very stylized mise-en-scene), Sciamma’s filmmaking, beginning with Water Lilies relates closely to the characteristics of first-time filmmaking in France, notably in its emphasis on coming-of-age films focused on adolescents or pre-adolescents. Sciamma is very interested, moreover, in the fluidity of gender and sexual identity among girls during this formative period. In 2014, Sciamma was in a relationship with the actress Adele Haenel whom she met on the set of Water Lilies. Haenel publicly acknowledged their relationship in her acceptance speech for her César award in 2014. Their relationship continued as of 2017.

1981 – Gay Community Services, Inc. receives its trade name from the State of Arizona.

2010, Columbia – Protests in Bogota take place after the Columbian court rules against same-sex marriage.

Stand up, speak out, share your story!




(Historical information obtained from a variety of sources including QUIST at,, #LavenderEffect,, #ArronsGayInfo, #AllThingsQueer, #RSLevinson, #AmaraDasWilhelm,, #SafeSchoolsCoalition, and/or Wikipedia. If you wish to edit an item or add an item, please send an email to me at Thanks!)

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